Recovery coach & sober coach helping LGBTQ+ break free from substance, alcohol & chemsex issues

Dating while sober? It’s not only possible — it can be powerful, fun and deeply real. Whether you're newly sober or have been for years, here are practical tips for building authentic connections without alcohol. ✅ Hang out in sober spaces Start where you feel seen and safe. Look for LGBTQ+ sob →

🌈 A simple yet powerful tool to explore how balanced, fulfilled and aligned your life feels right now. This Life Wheel is created specifically for lesbian, gay, bi, trans and queer people on recovery and self-growth journeys. Each area, from sex, relationships, finances, purpose to spirituality — r →

1️⃣ It’s not porn. Relax, have fun and be present, and It’s okay to be nervous. The aim is connection, intimacy and mutual pleasure, not pounding or breeding. Talking, laughter & cute moments help punctuate intimacy 2️⃣ Go sober. The goal is intimacy so anything that blocks or falsifies that wont h →

Gay men bottoming for the first time? Tips and suggestions for your first experience 🍆 More than just the physical First time bottoming isn’t just about the act — it’s about intimacy, trust, consent, and communication. Talk about your boundaries, pace, and your comfort. Do it with someone you lik →

DOXYPEP. A short explainer guide. Using the well-known antibiotic as post-exposure prophylaxis PEP for gay men and other LGBTQ+ to reduce the risk / prevent bacterial STIs. What is it? * Widely used oral antibiotic (doxycycline) * Reduces the chance of bacterial STIs and widely used in US as Doxy →

Track your use – Keep a drug diary to recognise patterns, triggers, feelings before and after and the reasons behind your use. Delay and reduce – Try using later in the day or spacing out the time between uses to gradually reduce intake. Use less or switch to a milder alternative – start by cutt →

Crystal Meth Withdrawal Timeline: What Happens After You Stop?
Your body and brain start healing the moment you stop. Here's what to expect. A timeline explainer For regular users, especially those on a 4 week cycle, the brain may not fully clear the chemical effects before the next use. Effects →

K use is escalating amongst LGBT+ and others. Here’s what you need to know. Use is rising in some cities and communities Passing of Drag Race UK winner, The Vivienne, has sparked new conversations about its dangers. Seen as “less risky” as many don’t realise long-term dangers like bladder or men →

Set Clear Limits and Alcohol-Free Days Decide on realistic limits for drinking occasions (drinks/units). Incorporate at least two alcohol-free days into your week. Monitor your use using an alcohol diary or app and see if you can reduce or modify your use further. These boundaries help you reg →

A short explainer 💊 Understanding chemicals in the brain and body; how dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin and endorphins shape substance use — and how to hack them using every day activities. ⚡️ Dopamine Reward Chemical Motivation and pleasure chemical, responsible for feelings of reward, focus and e →